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“The guys are afraid of commitment” “The girls are so arrogant; a 7 here will think she’s a 10” “Everyone here has an ego; they only care about themselves” “Nobody has time for a relationship” “Instead of dating Harvard girls, guys will import girls from Wellesley and B.U.” “People don’t want to be held back” “Everyone’s always looking for the next best thing” *** Judging by the title of this article, I’m sure you’re wondering, “What’s the dating scene like at Harvard?Anecdotally, Harvard women are also less impressed by Harvard men.That failsafe “I go to Harvard” pick-up-line no longer works on that cute girl in section, because—surprise! When women are educated and accomplished, they tend to hold higher standards for their dating partners.When meeting up with them in person, the men sat further away from the women who performed better than they did on the hypothetical exam and also rated them as less attractive, even if they initially said that they found female intelligence to be an attractive quality in dating partners.If I were to postulate a reason for this, it’s that society’s standards of masculinity and power is one in which the male is dominant—not just in physicality, but also in intelligence, ambition, and earning potential.A previous study showed that, given two identical pictures of the same girl—one with “Harvard” written on her shirt, one without—men will rate the plain-shirted girl as more attractive online.



And those smart girls wearing Harvard t-shirts might not be that bad after all…” To which I would honestly respond, “There’s a dating scene at Harvard?!” 21% of graduating Harvard seniors have never been in a relationship during college.Swiping right on a lighted screen is significantly easier than putting in the work for a relationship, and the value of sex—facilitated by the use of apps like Tinder, Grindr, Bumble, and Hinge—has been lowered considerably. Attitudes about hooking up have evolved from a strict cultural taboo on pre-marital sex, to a month-long courtship before a first kiss, to drunken hookups facilitated by sweaty dorm parties and desperation, to its most evolved form to date: those oh-so-eloquent “Netflix and chill? Between studying for classes, applying for internships, running to and from clubs, attending social events, and fitting in calories, exercise and some semblance of sleep, meaningful relationships have become deprioritized in favor of other things.

According to Alex Benzer ‘93, the author of the and a former pre-med tutor in Cabot House, “The writing of [my dating self-help books] was precipitated by the endemic dating woes on the Harvard campus as I observed them as an advisor and, earlier, indulged in them as a student.” As Benzer observes, “dating [at Harvard] is at best another extracurricular, #6 or #7 down the list, somewhere between Model UN and intramural badminton.” A banging CV is great, but it often comes at the expense of a love life.

Men might prefer less accomplished women for the same reason that many women prefer taller men.