With any dynamic there are always limitations, and these often show up in marriage counseling and divorce processing, making me wonder if there should be pre-marriage counseling for all ADD-like people and their potential partners. Whenever you try and schedule sex with a person with a rich fantasy-life, you are going to empty the energy fast.There is nothing worse than making sex the last event of the day, after everything is done, the kids have gone to bed, the dishes are done and the Tonight Show is over.Why are other folks not considered inattention deficient?I would like to speak to whomever names these things.If you are still doing it the same way you did five years ago, I would predict that you are doing it alone, even if your ADDer is physically there. We all can remember when we were just learning about the more intimate conditions between boys and girls, and the smartest among us caught onto the art of flirting (which wasn't me, by the way.) Flirting behavior is usually thought as seduction behavior, similar to the male turkey flaunting his tail feathers.But when we settled down to a long-term commitment, we boxed up all that behavior because we had "caught our limit." Not so fast.
For a person with the symptoms of limited focused concentration and out-of-the-box imaginations for novel experiences and thought, sex is the playground for our brains.Of the types I have done my private research with, I offer this information to whoever is committing to a long-lasting relationship. The ADD brain lends itself to these realms because of its neurological needs.For the ADD person I can recognize many sexual scenarios they like to engage in: 1. This type of person wants highly stimulating conditions and boredom grows easily.I could predict that a person with this description is not one kind of a sex partner, but likely 3 or 4, depending on the time of day. There are others, but these three appear to be consistent.